Anonymous asked: I've been in this ldr for a while now. So the guy I'm with is a Jehovah's Witness and they are very strict about relationships to begin with, and the fact that I'm not a JW, and we're both under 18 (It is frowned upon for JW's to date before 18) and we're almost 2,000 miles apart is making me worried that one day hes gonna realize that I'm not worth it. I've already asked him about it, and he told me that he's in love with me, and he never plans on leaving me. Do you think I should be worried?
Though the Jehovah Witness, does have very strict rules, doesn’t mean you should worry. There is always a way to figure those things out once the time comes, for now. Listen to your boyfriend, because it’s clear that he does love. There is nothing to really worry about. Just take one day at a time.
I hope this helps
Anonymous asked: (Part 4) And I'm not happy with being so easily tossed aside. Please help me. (((Sorry or spamming, also!)))
(Part 1) I’m not happy. My bf and I just started dating a few months ago and already I’m walking down the path of unhappiness. When he was pursuing me, he did all he could, and I felt so valued and important, which was why I decided to date him (even though he isn’t really the type I go for). Lately though I’ve been feeling very neglected and forgotten; like I’m second best and it hurts. I never expected to be his entire world (I’m not that selfish), but I at least expected to be part of…
(Part 2) His world and I don’t even get that. I don’t know what to do. I like him a lot, I really do, but it’s like there’s no effort anymore with him and no bother and it’s upsetting to be in a relationship (especially a long distance one, when effort and communication is so important). When I talk to him he always says I shouldn’t feel that way and helps cheer me up, so for a day or two I feel better but then a few days pass, and we’re back to the same tense routine (plus, lately, whenever….
(Part 3) I feel uncertain it’s like he gets annoyed or something— like him repeatedly having to remind me that I matter annoys him).I like him, but I want to end things. The last time I tried ending things, I crawled back to him within 24hrs, which is why I’m still hanging on thinking: “Maybe things will get better.” I really don’t know what to do, I’m so torn. I want things to work, because he’s a good person, and I want to stay with him because I like him, but he doesn’t seem to care….
(Part 4) And I’m not happy with being so easily tossed aside. Please help me. (((Sorry or spamming, also!)))
First off I would like to say, relationships are not perfect. Every relationship goes through some kind of rough patch, people are different about how they act in a relationship. You and him need to try to find some understanding, you guys might not be on the same page yet. Communicate with each other, let each other know how you feel and let him do the same thing with you. That way you both can find some sort of even ground in your relationship and find a good understanding with each other. It might be something you and him need. Sometimes you just need to talk and get it all out of the table, so to speak. I hope this helps.
pikachu-intheshower asked: My boyfriend lives 50 miles away, we manage to see eachother ever weekend as he works and I get an allowance that will just about cover train fairs. I never know if I should call it a LDR because we see eachother so much and i don't want to offend anyone:c I admire people who have ldr's they're so strong c:
aWES :3 thats sweet. Actually its still long distance you just do anything possible to see each other and thats encouraging. Wish you guys all the luck.
We appreciate that you acknowledge how strong we are. It does take alot for ones that are farther away. And we aren’t easily offended :)
We give you realistic answers to your questions. We do not sugar coat things and we try to give you the best answer to help. Do you guys feel that this is what you are looking for when asking questions or do you want the fake fairy tale response?
Anonymous asked: This boy that I THOUGHT was my boyfriend keeps putting statuses saying that he's single and looking for a girlfriend. I'm so confused and I don't understand because he's the one who asked ME out. I don't want to confront him because I'm afraid he will insult me and embarrass me by saying how he was just basically playing me. So how else can I get out of this? What should I do?
If you dont wanna confront him face to face and give him a piece of you mind by telling him how f*cked up that is then you can deleted him from your life. Thats the only way. Because if he literally posted that it means he one doesn’t think you are serious or doesn’t think he was being serious. Either way u have to one step to him and tell him how it is. or two remove him and completely act like he never existed.
Hope this helps
Anonymous asked: It's hard to trust that my LDBF (of 2y) truly loves me sometimes. He broke my trust the last two times he broke up with me (which lasted a week or less) But he doesn't do much to show his love other than saying I love you. He hasn't wanted to skype with me in a while either. (though he visited two weeks ago) Even sometimes the tone of his voice seems weird. If I talk to him about it, it would only raise an argument and disagreements. I don't know what to do.
if its not important for him to actually talk it out with you and work at it then something is wrong. Not saying that its something bad. Unfortunately its always hard to trust again once a trust has been broken. Now sometimes a person might get aggravated with you for the lack or trust but he has to understand that he caused it. Now accepting him back means that your willing to over look it and want to work things out. So you either have to learn to trust him or he has to accept it. either way someone has to compromise. I have someone that i’ve been kinda on and off with for two yrs too and he does the same thing but he too was the one that caused the issues. we both compromise i try to trust and he tries to understand that there are moments when my trust wavers. But in the end we always love each other.
I hope this helps,
Anonymous asked: This guy (19)& I (16)have been talking for months and we both fell for each other, he lives in the U.S and I live in Canada. He makes me happy, he's brings the best out of me, he makes me forget about the bad stuff. But he said we can't be together because we can't do things like hugging, kissing etc.. It breaks my heart because I want to be his and I want him to mine. What should I do? :/
You can’t make someone be with you if they have their mind made up. Unfortunately some ppl hate long distance. Maybe he’s being completely honest to you and knows that if he was to date you those things woukd get to him. Maybe he knows deep down that those are the deal breakers. Or maybe he feels that he might cheat on you Bc he wants someone he can hug and kiss. Just because your Ok with the distance doesn’t mean he is. He might like you alot but as to date you and commit to you. He needs you physically there. It’s not wrong on his part. That’s how he feels and you can’t change that.
I’m sorry. The best thing to do is wait it out. Just be really great friends that might have a future and maybe when your older move over there or him move where u are. But right now ur only 16 and he is 19 he wants a physical girlfriend and he has a right to say no.
I hope this sheds a little light On this subject for you. Sorry wish I could snap my fingers and make him change his mind but it won’t happen.
Anonymous asked: My ldguy & I have been talking for 3 months so we're still trying to get to know each other. He's sweet, affectionate, very talkative and energetic but me? I'm an introvert. I'm only social in intervals lol and he's so energetic, it can be draining and I need time to recuperate but he calls EVERYDAY. I've tried to tell him this but he thinks i'm telling him he's annoying and i don't like him which isn't true at all! How do I tell him that I just need space and I'd rather just text sometimes?
You can make some kind of arrangement, were you and him call on certain days and text on other days. Just let him know that some days it would be easier to text, rather then talk on the phone. With arranging days he can call won’t make him feel like he is annoying you, or anything like that. That way you both can have what you want.