Anonymous asked: Hi. My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months now, and are happy together. We've never met in person. We call and text as much as we can daily and never get sick of each other. The bad part is..we have a 17 year age gap. He also has 4 kids, and 2 of them near my age. We've decided that I should visit after my semester is over, and well I still live with my parents. How would you tell controlling parents that you are going to stay a weekend with your boyfriend with these circumstances :(
First your parents aren’t controlling they are looking out for your wellbeing. There’s a difference. They don’t know this man and he is a man. You have to respect them because they are paying for your living expenses and Ur collage. So their opinions are import. You also have to look at it through a parents eyes. Your their child. No matter how old you get. They will always protect you. In all honesty you don’t really really know this guy and in their eyes that’s how they view him. They might even have their own opinions on him Bc of the age difference. You have to respect that and try to get them to understand your thoughts. Break it down for them. Be honest and open with them. Let them Meet. Tell them About him. It’s just like any parents meeting anyone’s new bf or gf. But Bc he is older and long distance there’s so many thoughts that might go through their minds and it’s normal for them to feel a way about it. Your still young and u still haven’t been through life enough. In their eyes.
So all I can say is be understanding to them and their views and present this to them as an adult. They will. Respect you more if your respectful about it.
Anonymous asked: I'm dating someone now that lives in my state but I really like this guy from another state (I've known him longer too). Recently I started rethinking my relationship and feel like I should break-up with my boyfriend. I can't do the long distance relationship tho and neither can the guy from the other state. I dunno? This is weird and it's kinda obvious I should just break up with him but I feel so bad. Like I want to stay with him, but if I like this other guy it'll be weird. Y'know?
If you can’t do the long distance thing, and you have both argreed on it. I would think that is a good enough answer, maybe you should try giving the guy that you are with a chance. You never know he might be the right person for you.
Anonymous asked: I met him through my ex boyfriend. He was his bestfriend. My ex used to be abusive with me.. And all his friends knew about it since i told his bestfriend about it. We broke but i still kept contact with the bestfriend. They stopped being friends while we kept getting closer. Its been 5 months since the breakup. And i dont even remember why i dated him. All i can think about is this guy. And he has told me the same. He lives in ny and i in miami. Is this wrong? We're planning on meeting etc
If he and him are no longer friends, they I don’t thin there would be anything wrong with it. You are not breaking any rules since they no longer are friends.
Anonymous asked: Dated guy everything was amazing.. During the time we were dating I decided to go on a big trip abroad for 3 weeks that my friends invited me on. During the 2nd week I was gone he slowly stopped communication and then finally when I asked him to be honest he said he didn't know if continuing to build on our rltnship was smart since I was moving shortly after I came home. He said he didn't think he'd miss me this much. But he's been barely talking/we haven't seen eachother yet. Is he BSing me ?
The thing about any relatioships is that something, get over looked and somethings get looked at to much. It doesn’t sound like he bsing you, it simply sounds like he doesn’t know how to handle his feeling, or how he should reacted to things you do. Most guys tend to over think that stuff and makes their other half wonder if they are bsing them or not. Changes that have to be getting use to.
Anonymous asked: My boyfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for 4 months now. We never met before, but we Skype everyday. And I know him better than anyone else. And he knows me better than I know myself. We're going to meet in 2 months time for the first time. But he's afraid we won't like each other as much as we say we do. What do I do?
Don’t worry about the small things like that, if you and him skype everyday. Then it does help the process of meeting each other, you never know who could happen. For all anyone knows is you and him could be very happy and like each other even more then you did before. Just don’t focus on all the what ifs and think about how great it will when you and him finely meet in person.
Anonymous asked: I told my parents that I've been with my long distance boyfriend for about a month now, and they were super mad. They don't approve of the distance between us(which is about 14 hours) I don't want anything to happen to us. He seriously makes me happier than I have been in almost a year. But I don't like the fact that my parents don't approve. What should I do?
Parents are just protecting you and when something like that happens, they are never sure how to protect their kids. Give them some time maybe when you and your boyfriend are in the same city you can introduce him to your parents. For the mean time, I won’t bring him up to much to your parents.
Anonymous asked: A little while ago a serious relationship of mine ended in flames after three years of being together, two and a half long distance. I have a friend who lives a few states away who's fallen for me, and whom I really care for. However, I'm once bitten twice shy about relationships in general, especially after the last one. Any advice?
I can tell you that, it does really suck when you have a relationship fall apart on you and break up happen. But even when you’ve been bitten it never hurts to try one more time, sometimes there can me a little bit of good luck. You never know until you try, my advice to you is if you both care about each other see where it goes. You never know it could be something you’ve been waiting for.
Anonymous asked: i've been with my ldbf for almost 8 months but he's in college and is a lot busier than i am. we haven't talked in a week and with my crippling anxiety and depression, i get really worried about everything and want constant attention. i know he's busy, but i can't stand not talking for this long??? help
Long distance relastionships is about trust, always rememeber just because he’s busy doesn’t mean he doesn’t still care or love you. Just simply means he has a little more things he needs to do for you and he’s probably thinking about you everday. Don’t worry keep your thoughts on all the good stuff and the time you get to talk to him.
Anonymous asked: We met in uni, dated and now we're in two different countries with an 8hr difference. Our relationship has now hit the 22nd month mark and have been in LDR for the past 6 months. Two days ago I broke down whilst video calling him asking him if he knows how he feel about me now. He said he doesn't know. I asked again if he likes me, he said he does and said he doesn't want me to feel unhappy since I was crying. Do you think he still likes me? Or has his feelings start fading..?
Everyone goes through a rough patch it is not uncommon for people to have them and even more so in a long distance relationship. If he said he still likes you then, he does still like you. Don’t worry about feelings fading enjoy your time together and make the best of every one of them.
Anonymous asked: Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year and since we both went away to college we've been long distance. The first semester we had a lot of issues and fought all the time and started thinking I didn't like him but once winter break hit we went completely back to normal. Now that we're back at school, I am not missing him that much and we haven't fought at all but sometimes I feel like I'm losing feelings but I know I don't want to end things with him at all. Is this normal to feel?
You don’t have to always miss someone to be in love with them. You’re mature and that’s a good thing. You’re probably not losing feelings for him, it’s simply that he doesn’t have to be around all the time. It’s completely normal. It just shows how mature you are and how you are dealing with life and school. Don’t worry to much about it.